''Ok, mom, let me start to report my life in Vietnam. The beginning is an introduction, then three paragraphs with thesis statements. The end will be a conclusion.'' That's a way I think I should tell my mom (in my imagination), when she worries about my career.
This morning, I just thought the chatting with my mom yesterday and I found three questions seem her major concerns since I have worked in Vietnam:
1. Mom: ''What have you learned in Vietnam? Why your Vietnamese is so poor? You stayed there more than one year!''
Me: "You know because....and now my VN words are much better than before. I am keeping learning..."
Mom: ''Are you?'' ......
2. Mom: ''Haven't you thought to continue study to get a PhD degree...?'' (notice the expression here is not ''Do you...?'' or ''Have you...?'')
Me: ''I think working experience is very important, and maybe I can get a scholarship beacuse of that(I was surprised I said like this, do I really want to spend years to study further?)'' Ok, very well. Mom, should I told you I may like to study Buddhism or xx in Burma or some unexpected countries, something like that?
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3. Mom: ''Are you sure you can find a job if you leave Vietnam?''
Me:''You know I once applied for xxxx, and they quite appreciated my performance...so I think it's the bosses' loss if they don't want me!''
I found my answers are hopeful and I am glad that there is a part in my personalities very confident.
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Several days ago, I had a coffee with a friend.
She told me many working experiences and asked me: ''What's your life goal?''
I pondered for a little long and she continued: ''Isn't your life goal is seeking for happiness?''
I was silent and thought again. She kept going: ''Mine is simple, just for fun!!''
''Well, I think everyone seeks for happiness, but it depends on what you put in the happiness.''
I replied finally. She was looked a little surprised maybe the answer wasn't what she expected and I believe few people can give such an answer. Then I said ''So fun is your life center, and your thoughts and behaviors must be around it. We all live in and practice our values.'' I didn't know why I took the issue seriously and I didn't reveal I was also thinking the constructs of the happiness as those Psychologists did. My thinking style was like I WAS writing a dissertation about ''Happiness!''
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She also told me many dialogues in her family, which shown interesting interacctions betweeen the family members. ''It' s so funny.'' I laughed. ''Shouldn't life like this- No much worries and pressures?'' She made an exaggereted facial figures. ''I agree. But my family is quite serious relatively.'' I thought the happy her also a production from the air of the joyful family.
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Of course, mom and I could chat many things, which are not so serious (but usually have a conclusion.) and I can learn many sense of arts and some wisdom from her. I have such a luck to learn so much and develop my own taste and opinions as well.
Everyone fills in the sentence, "life is ______." under the context of his or her stories derived from family experiences. I would be appreciate where I come from and maybe not put any adjectives for it one day. We should learn from both bright and dark sides in the family, where is a fundemental of our creativity.
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